Portland Emotionally Focused Therapy™

Therapy for Couples

Every couple faces obstacles to maintaining a satisfying, lively, close relationship. Sometimes those obstacles become so great that partners can't communicate any more, and both start to feel disconnected, lonely, or constantly criticized. Even the smallest disagreement or slightest critical comment can spark a fight. Some couples, trying to avoid conflict, become withdrawn and emotionally disengaged. They feel more like roommates than loving partners. This can change. Couple therapy can help you improve your relationship.

Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples (EFT-C) is a research validated method of helping couples resolve relationship conflicts, improve emotional communication, and increase intimacy. As EFT-C therapists, we help you understand how relationships work at an emotional level where reactive emotions and negative cycles can hijack your interactions. We will support both of you and foster an environment where deeper emotions, old hurts, and important needs can be safely expressed and understood by your partner. Together, we can create new, positive ways of engaging that will strengthen your emotional bond, build resilience when coping with conflicts, and increase liveliness and spontaneity.

In EFT-C, emotion is seen as the key organizer of interactions and the transforming element in couple therapy. Partners are helped to explore their emotional responses to each other, become more aware of their deeper needs, and understand how their emotional vulnerabilities can drive escalating negative cycles. They are then guided into creating new, positive cycles of interaction by being more open about their deeper needs and emotionally responsive to each other at these critical moments.

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Choosing a Couple Therapist

Couple therapy involves a serious financial and emotional commitment. There are some important facts that you should know about couple therapy before choosing a therapist. Also, there are some critical questions you should ask any potential couple therapist before deciding to work with them.

Not sure you need therapy?

If you feel that your relationship could use some improvement but aren't sure you need therapy, please take a look at our couple enrichment program, Hold Me Tight. It's based on EFT-C and is intended for committed couples who want to strengthen their emotional connection and improve their communication.

Still not sure about making an appointment?

Deciding to see a therapist can be a difficult step. Many couples are unhappy for years before they finally seek help. If you are hesitant and need to know more about our approach or have other questions, please give us a call. We will be happy to talk with you and answer any questions or concerns you may have. Contact us >>